Sis, let’s have a quick and real conversation you might not hear elsewhere. Understanding the body language signs a guy is lusting after you can help you distinguish between genuine affection and physical attraction.
You know how exciting it is when you’re around a new guy.
All you want to do is spend quality time with him. You want to talk to him about everything and anything.
However, when you’re around him, you feel this intense heat.
It doesn’t look like love; rather, something primal, something unusual. Like you’re nervous around him, and your heart when you’re close to him.
But you’re so much in love that you choose to be blind.
There’s a vast difference between love and lust.
You can’t tell the difference from the onset, but it shows up with time.
Love is subtle, but lust it’s loud.
If you don’t pay attention, the butterflies in your tummy will blind you from recognizing the walking red flag you’re dating.
You’ll fail to see the ever-hungry look in his eyes, the twitch in his fingers or the way he seems to press his body against you.
If it’s love, every word and action would align. If it’s lust, his words would profess love while his actions say otherwise.
He might just be craving what’s beneath your clothes.
Now, if you want to know his true intent, then read this article.
Body Language Signs That a Guy Is Lusting After You
1. He Can’t Stop Staring at Your Body (Not Just Your Face)
There was this guy in college who was fond of staring at my chest. I always felt cringe every time we crossed paths. And I was not even busty to begin with. I had a pretty face, so why couldn’t he look at that?
Needless to say, I made sure to avoid him.
Calls. Texts. Physical meetings. If he were taking a right turn, I would go left.
There’s a difference between an admiring look and a look that scans your privates.
Think back to every encounter you’ve had. Does he look you in the eye? Or does he let his eyes sweep over your curves every time you meet?
If he eyes your body like a piece of meat, he’s not interested in your soul. He wants sex.
2. His Eyes Dilate When He Looks at You
If he maintains intense eye contact, invades your personal space, and finds excuses to touch you, these may be body language signs a guy is lusting after you.
One of the signs someone is aroused is when their pupils dilate.
The eyes go darker or wider. There’s this primal glint you may miss if you’re not observant.
When next you meet, look into his eyes.
If you notice these signs, there’s a lusty connection going on.
3. He Licks or Bites His Lips Often Around You
It’s not unusual for a guy to have dry lips. A guy can lick his lips constantly when he feels his lips are dry.
But if he is constantly moistening his lips whenever he looks at you, he’s lusting after you.
4. He Finds Every Excuse to Touch You
I’m trying to tread carefully here. There are some people whose love language is touch.
An occasional hug, pat on the back, or handshake is a way they express love. And there’s nothing wrong with that by itself.
Scientifically, there’s something about a touch that deepens human connection.
We need it for survival.
However, motive matters a lot as well.
If a guy is lusting after you, he most likely wants to touch you suggestively. His goal is to arouse you.
So, don’t fall for those frequent ‘accidental’ touches on your bum, waist or boobs.
Besides, it’s your body we’re talking about. If a guy keeps touching you inappropriately, he’s lusting after you.
5. He Stands or Sits Really Close — Too Close
Another sign that a man is led by lust is when he invades your personal space. Ideally, one should be 2-4 metres away when conversing with someone.
If he keeps leaning in so close that you feel the air shift, this isn’t an interest in you. It’s lust.
6. He Mirrors Your Movements, But in a Suggestive Way
In the law of attraction, mirroring is a popular concept.
Mirroring is simply mimicking the other person’s moves, often to make them comfortable with you.
However, when driven by lust, there’ll be a sensual twist.
Every mirrored move is a provocative weapon to weaken your defenses and get you into bed.
If he mirrors every step with a suggestive undertone, he’s lusting after you.
7. He Breaths Heavily or You Notice Subtle Sighs
Pay attention to the way he breathes.
Does his breath increase several notches when you’re around?
Most likely, his body is revealing his internal excitement
Pay attention.
8. His Voice Drops When Talking to You
There’s this guy I was crushing on. While he’s not the loud, extroverted type, his voice was usually audible.
However, whenever he spoke to me, I noticed his voice was lower, almost a whisper.
Whether he did it intentionally or not, I just knew there was this softer, more romantic undertone whenever he spoke to me.
Many guys subconsciously lower their voices around a women they’re lusting after.
Why?
Because deeper voices are seen as dominant, sensual and exciting. So next time, if his voice takes a husky tone, watch out!
9. He Fixes His Appearance Around You
First off, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to look good for the person you like.
But sometimes, it’s not about looking good but looking desirable.
If he’s constantly checking his shirt, smoothing his hair, and oiling his lips, he wants you to find him sexually appealing.
Don’t get too carried away when you see this. He’s most likely seeing you through a sexual lens.
10. His Body Always Faces You — Even When Others Are Around
There’s nothing as awkward as being made the centre of attention when there’s a bunch of people around. Except, of course, you like it.
If you’re in the midst of people, and he turns his entire body to you, you’re his lustful target.
It gets worse when he focuses on you with intense stares and a flirty body language.
Vibes don’t lie! You’re the object of his lust
11. He Keeps Complimenting Your Body More Than Your Mind
One of the most obvious signs he’s lusting after you is when he keeps complimenting your body more than your mind.
I once had a colleague do this.
He would always talk about my height and weight as if that was what he was hired to do.
His compliments were centred on how sexy, hot, or fine I was.
If you’re a vain person, these may get into your head. But I know you’re not, that’s why you’re still reading this.
If his compliments are always about your body and looks, and not your intelligence and energy, he’s being a lusty jerk.
12. He Adjusts His Posture or… You Know… Below
There are some really creepy things lustful men do. I cringe again as I write. If your guy is always adjusting himself in the crotch area, it’s not because his jeans are tight or his boxers are a size too small.
He’s letting you know he’s available to get down with you.
This means he only sees you as a sexual toy to use for his lustful pleasures.
How tacky!
13. He Gives You ‘The Look’ — And You Feel It
Has someone ever looked at you and you felt… exposed?
No, not the ‘I see your soul; look but the ‘get naked with me’⁰ look.
You know what I’m talking about.
If he lets his eyes travel from your lips to your chest and back to your eyes, dear, he craves your body.
14. His Smile Turns Into a Smirk — Especially After You Say Something Innocent
Does he make every statement you make a sensuous one?
It’s really annoying when someone makes everything about sex. It reveals a deeply depraved state of mind.
If it makes every random statement feel like an X-rated movie, you’re dealing with a lustful human.
So, What Does All This Mean?
Let’s be clear:
Attraction is normal. Before dating someone, you need to have chemistry.
However, chemistry isn’t enough.
If you want something more, you need to look beyond his words.
If you want emotional connection, loyalty, and real commitment, you can’t accept anyhow behavior.
A Man who wants you for you would show you respect.
He’ll want to know your mind. He’ll look out for your character.
He’ll respect your boundaries. He’ll protect you from himself.
Lust fades. True love will stand.
If you’re unsure about his intentions, watching for body language signs that a guy is lusting after you might give you the clarity you need.
In all, your man has the right to express his intentions, but you must decide if that’s what you want.
Because trust me, you’re worth more than just being someone’s fantasy.
