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13 Subtle Signs That Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You

13 Subtle Signs That Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You

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Major signs that your ex is pretending to be over you… What are the major signs that show that your ex is NOT over you?

If you have been broken up for a while and your ex pretends to be over you and you notice some red flags, then they’re most likely not over you.

When someone breaks up with you, it’s like a kick in the stomach. After months of the relationship, you feel like your ex is all you have left in the world.

Maybe they’re the only ones who can understand you or make you laugh out loud.

It’s okay to feel lonely, but if you realize that your ex is showing major signs that they’re pretending to be over you, then it’s time for a reality check.

1.) He/she says they’re genuinely happy for you.

If he or she says they’re genuinely happy for you, they’re not over you. If they are pretending to be over you, then their initial reaction is going to be faked no matter what.

It’ll happen when your new love tries to give you a compliment or suggest a date night.

A hint: if someone’s not over you, they won’t be happy for you either way. So believe them when they say it!

If someone is genuinely over a past relationship, then it doesn’t matter if that person is happy for you or not.

Because whether or not the ex is happy will make absolutely no difference whatsoever in how the new relationship proceeds either way!

When someone pretends to be happy for their ex, know that deep down there’s something off with them still feeling very resentful and maybe even a bit jealous.

Obviously, the person wasn’t completely ready yet

2.) They stay in touch with your friends and family.

If your ex is still in touch with your friends and family, they’re pretending to be over you.

Consider it a major red flag if your ex is staying involved in the lives of the people who are close to you — especially if it isn’t for the sake of mutual friends or children.

If an ex stays in touch with your family or friends, that might mean they want to stay involved in your life.

Or, even worse, they could be trying to gain information about you so that they can emotionally manipulate you later on. Either way, it’s not cool.

3.) They stalk you on social media.

It’s safe to say that social media has changed the way we interact with one another.

It makes sense, then, that it’s also a major indicator of how your ex is dealing with their feelings about your breakup.

If they’re blocking you from their social media accounts or private messaging you screenshots of them deactivating theirs, it’s clear-cut proof that your former S.O. is trying to move on without you.

However, if they’re constantly liking your posts and immediately responding to any message you send them, it could be a sign they still have feelings for you.

Staying up-to-date on what your ex is doing through social media means they might not have fully accepted the end of the relationship.

Checking up on whether their new S.O. has posted anything on Instagram with them or keeping tabs on Facebook events they may be planning to attend without you can show that even though your ex broke up with you, they still want to know what’s going in your life—and are possibly intimidated by being out of the loop.

If someone just can’t seem to leave their nose out of your business online, there’s a good chance that it has something to do with how much influence and control over the said business(ahem: how much influence and control over YOU).

That person feels like he/she used to have before your relationship ended—which speaks far louder than any grand gesture!

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4.) They try to make you jealous.

Also one of the many signs that your ex is pretending to be over you is that they will likely find a way to make you jealous, even if that means making it up.

If they feel like they have lost your attention and can’t get it back any other way, they may resort to these tactics.

He or she might start casually dropping names of people you know are attractive. Maybe they used to flirt with him or her in the past?

Maybe their ex is super amazing? Whatever the case may be, your ex is trying to make you jealous by getting you to think of them with someone else.

They will also likely post pictures of themselves with friends who are attractive on social media, especially if he knows that you still follow them there.

They might even leave some flirty comments on these posts from time to time—all in the name of making you jealous.

It could also just be an indirect way for him or her to feel validated about their appearance—it feeds the ego when people are fighting for attention because what is being fought over must be valuable in some form or another.

It’s like telling yourself, “I’m worth fighting over! Look at how many people want me!”

They go out of their way to get a reaction out of you or the person they think you’re now dating.

i) They go out of their way to get a reaction out of you or the person they think you’re now dating.

Maybe your ex has been trying to make you feel jealous by flirting with you, or making you feel guilty by talking about how much better they are doing right now, or making you feel bad about yourself in general.

By bringing up all the reasons why they broke up with you in the first place.

ii) They react strongly and negatively to things that remind them of your relationship.

When your ex reacts really strongly to any mention of your past relationship, it could be a sign that they are pretending to be over you.

If this is happening, it’s because deep down inside, your ex is hurting and scared about being alone again.

By holding onto their anger and resentment towards you. It helps distance them from the pain that they might otherwise have experienced if they were able to fully process what happened with the breakup.

5) They are still trying to keep tabs on what’s going on in your life.

If your ex keeps trying to “accidentally” run into you at places that are important to both of you is one of the numerous signs that your ex is pretending to be over you.

Or if he/she keeps asking mutual friends for information about what’s going on in your life (your personal life as well as professional).

Then this is probably a sign that he/she doesn’t really want things between the two of you to end.

6.) You see them everywhere.

Have you been seeing your ex at every turn?

Maybe you met them at the grocery store, only to run into each other at the coffee shop later that day.

Maybe they came up to you while you were working out at the gym. Or maybe they have started posting stories on Instagram that show up right next to yours.

They may seem like random encounters, but they’re actually signs that your ex is pretending to be over you.

7.) They ask your friends about you.

Your friends are people you can confide in, and if your ex is trying to act like they’re no longer interested in you or the relationship. they wouldn’t be asking your friends about you.

Your ex probably wants to know what you’re up to now that they’ve broken up with you.

They want to know if there’s any chance of them winning you back, so the best way for them to find out is through the people who know you best (and would tell on your ex if they were being sneaky).

8.) The silent treatment.

When you receive the silent treatment from an ex, it’s often a tactic used to whip up your emotions and get you to prove that you care about them.

They hope that by giving you the silent treatment, it’ll make you jealous enough to reach out first and start a conversation with them.

This is childish behavior. It’s immature and only shows that they’re not really over you yet. If they were, they wouldn’t have time for such ridiculous antics.

The best thing to do when your ex gives you the silent treatment is be the bigger person and just ignore them.

Don’t lower yourself to their level by calling them or messaging them incessantly asking what’s wrong. Don’t give in and show your cards so easily!

An ex who isn’t over you will give any type of cold shoulder strategy a try in order to feel like they have some kind of control over the situation still—but don’t let them pull one over on you!

9.) They suddenly seem to have no interest in the things that used to be so important to them.

Things that used to be important, such as their favorite TV show, places they loved to visit, or maybe even family members who know you well are all off the list of things they want to do or think about.

They suddenly have no interest in any of these things and would prefer not to be reminded of them.

If your ex has a new way of acting and it seems like he’s doing his very best not to involve himself in things that remind him of you, then there’s a good chance he’s pretending to move on from you.

10.) They throw shade at your new love interests on social media (or anywhere, really).

i). They act weird when they see you with someone else in person.

ii). They act jealous when they see a picture of you with someone else in person, or on social media.

iii). They throw shade at your new love interests on social media (or anywhere, really).

11.) Their body language is screaming “I’m not over this!” when they’re around you.

If you notice that your ex’s feet, legs, and torso are pointed toward you when they’re around you, it could mean that they want to be closer to you.

On the other hand, if their feet, legs, and torso are pointed away from you like they’re trying to get as far away from you as possible, then that’s a big sign of disinterest. They probably want nothing to do with you.

12.) All of the sudden, they’re trying to upgrade their looks… and you know it’s not for themselves alone.

All of the sudden, they’re trying to upgrade their looks… and you know it’s not for themselves alone. If you have been experiencing this with an ex, it’s of of those signs that your ex is pretending to be over you.

They often bring up how happy they are in their new relationship whenever they’re talking to you.

This can be as simple as saying how much fun it is hanging out with friends without you, or something more direct like a casual statement that they’ve met someone new and are dating them.

They have suddenly become very fond of stalking your social media profiles and online presence (and not just because they still love you).

This can mean obsessively checking up on your Facebook posts, Instagram comments, Snapchat stories, etc..

And it will likely extend outside social media as well, such as checking up on your personal blog if you happen to have one or searching for your LinkedIn page to see what kind of job you’ve landed since the breakup happened.

Their interactions with other people seem extremely forced and fake compared to how they used to be before things ended between the two of you.

Especially if those interactions involve people who are close enough in age or appearance that there could be some level of jealousy attached (for example an ex who is pretending to be over someone might go out of their way to become best friends with that person’s younger sibling).

There are lots of other signs that your ex is pretending to be over you, but suffice it to say that if there’s someone that won’t let go, you’ll know–and it will become clear very quickly that they aren’t over it.

If you happened to be the one that did the breaking up, and your ex is constantly trying to get back into your life, it means they’re not over it.

They may even come right out and say it—or they might do their best to pretend they don’t care about you anymore when in reality, they can’t stop thinking about you.

If you didn’t break up with them, then there are a few ways this can happen:

  • the person who got dumped tries really hard not to let the other person know they’re still hung up on them
  • the person who got dumped tries very hard not to let their ex know how much it hurts

If there is someone who truly refuses to let go, they will very easily remind you of it–whether they mean to or not!

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