There are days when you are feeling down or lonely, and you feel like there’s no hope for your situation.
Feeling this way is ok. You’re not alone. We all sometimes wake up with a sinking feeling in our stomachs and can’t wait to go back to sleep, the sadness overwhelms us to where we have trouble functioning at work.
The stress of thinking about all the problems we have also overwhelmed us to the point that we don’t want to get out of bed in the morning. But face that feeling and act on these 8 things to remember when you’re feeling down.
1) You are strong.
If you’re feeling down, remember:
You are strong. There’s a lot of psychological research proving that we can self-talk our way into and out of many mental states—so take this as an opportunity to encourage yourself.
Remind yourself that you have overcome challenges before. This doesn’t mean wallowing in your self-pity (you’ll get to that later), but it does mean knowing your worth and remembering how much you’ve already accomplished.
It’s difficult not to feel sad about things when you’re in the midst of a rough period, so give yourself credit for how far you’ve made it thus far—and how much further you’ll make it still.
You have survived other hard times. In all likelihood, there have been situations throughout your life where things have been bad or even terrible—but here you are, on the other side of them, still going strong.
2) This feeling will pass.
Imagine you are waiting for the bus. You are standing in a small crowd of strangers all focused on their cell phones.
There is no immediate prospect of conversation, and the weather is cold and unpleasant.
Suddenly, in an effort to block out those around you, you remember a happy memory—a particularly memorable vacation or moment with a friend or family member that brings a smile to your face.
A few minutes later, the memory fades away and you’re back at the bus stop with strangers and bad weather again. The feeling will pass whether you like it or not.
The more we recognize that our feelings come and go impermanently like this, the less they control us.
It’s easy to assume otherwise—to assume that our emotions are who we are—but this results in suffering because it leads us down the path of thinking that some parts of life simply shouldn’t be felt.
3.) It’s okay to feel pain.
One of those things to remember when you’re feeling down is to remind yourself, that it’s OK to feel pain.
Pain is an emotion. It is a sign of a healthy mental state and an important part of life. Although people have different thresholds for experiencing pain, we all experience it one way or the other.
The key to dealing with pain is in accepting that it’s normal and natural to experience feelings of discomfort at times.
When you let yourself feel the pain instead of running away from it, you’ll see that your problems are not insurmountable.
In some situations, your pain can actually be a sign that something is wrong in your life and that you need to change it for the better.
It could mean that you’re unhappy with how things are going at work or school, or maybe you’re having family issues.
Whatever the cause might be, acknowledging when something is hurting you can lead you down the path to healing.
4.) Everyone feels this way at some point in their lives.
First and foremost, remember that everyone experiences down periods. No matter what emotions you’re feeling, it is part of the human experience to feel low from time to time.
Yes, even the person who seems happiest is prone to days where they simply don’t feel as happy as usual.
Depression should be taken seriously and considered a problem for many people. However, it’s important to remember that feeling low is normal!
If you are feeling down, know that this is an experience shared by a lot of people. You are not alone!
5.) It’s okay to need help
When you’re down and feeling low, it can be hard to convince yourself to talk to someone. It’s ok though.
It’s ok to need help because there is always someone else out there who needs our help more than we do.
We just have to open our eyes and realize that we all need a helping hand sometimes in life.
You aren’t alone, It’s okay to need help. You don’t have to ask everyone, but you should ask someone, only you know what you need.
Helping others can also help you.
6.) It is okay to ask for help.
Asking for help is a sign of strength. To ask for help shows that you are brave enough to face your fears and you are ready to get out of your comfort zone (which is probably what got you in this situation).
Asking for help can also be a good way to process something on your own or with others, and it will likely make the bad thing less challenging.
You should consider asking for help if:
- you’re stuck on an activity for more than 10 minutes
- you feel overwhelmed or things are starting to pile up
- you don’t know how to approach a particular problem
7.) Remember you are not alone.
It can be tempting to believe that you’re the only person on earth to ever feel the pain, embarrassment, or struggles that you’re feeling right now. But trust me—you aren’t.
You might be the only person who has gone through the exact situation that you are facing, but there are other people who have felt this way before.
There are other people out there going through it right now. And yes, there are even other people who have overcome it and gone on to live happy and successful lives!
You don’t need to carry all of this on your own shoulders; you don’t need to pretend like everything is fine when it isn’t.
Instead, reach out and talk to someone about what you’re feeling.
8.) Remember that you are loved and cared for
The last but not the least of things to remember when you’re feeling down is that whenever you think that no one cares, remember that there is so much love in the world.
- You are loved by your friends and family.
- You are loved by your community.
- You are loved by God.
- You are loved by your pets.
- You are loved by yourself (a little self-love goes a long way).
- You are loved by the universe and the world around you.
In conclusion, nobody’s perfect. We all have our down days. If you’re in a good place, great! But if you’re not, there’s no need to feel guilty about it.
Everyone needs help sometimes and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. In fact, you should make sure to tell your friends and family if you’re struggling with something.
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