As a relationship coach, I hear from couples who are struggling to maintain a healthy relationship.
Many times, these couples feel like they’re in an endless cycle of hurt and anger.
They ask me if there’s anything they can do to make their relationship better and my answer always is yes!
You can take charge of your own healing journey by acknowledging how you are feeling (not just blaming your partner or anyone else for what might be going on).
Then working together with your partner to resolve whatever may be causing conflict between the two of you.
There are different tips to show you how to maintain a healthy relationship Although, maintaining a healthy relationship may not always be easy.
This is because, it takes extra effort, sacrifice, commitment, and intentionality to build a healthy relationship.
There is a form of serenity that comes with being in a healthy relationship.
If you’ve ever been in a toxic relationship then you’ll understand the importance of having a healthy relationship.
Sometimes, it’s actually easy to kick start by having a beautiful and healthy relationship but the issue is how to maintain it into your preferred choice.
If you’re willing to know how to maintain your relationship then read this article to the end.
1. Be Sure That You Want To Be In The Relationship
If you are not confident and sure of the reasons why you want to be in a relationship then, it may not always end well.
And that’s why before you embark on a relationship state your reasons for wanting to be in that relationship.
After doing this, be aware of the advantages and disadvantages that come with being in a relationship then, check if you can cope with the risks that it entails.
2. Make time for each other, even in the midst of life’s busyness.
You need to find a balance between work and personal life. If your relationship is important to you, make time for it.
Even if that means setting aside some of the other things in your life that matter less.
It’s also important that both partners feel like they’re getting enough attention from each other.
So make sure that if one person is busier than the other (or has another commitment), they don’t feel like their partner isn’t giving them enough time or attention!
Your relationship should not suffer because of work or other obligations.
2. Give All It Takes
If you want a healthy relationship then always be ready to sacrifice intentionally, with mutual respect and commitment
There are a lot of factors that make a relationship a healthy one that is devoid of toxicity and bitterness.
And in achieving one you must be relentless to make it work.
Because having a healthy relationship takes a lot of hard work.
It’s just like fighting for what you want in other to enjoy the benefits later.
3. Determine your core values and goals together, and be open about them with one another
In order to maintain a healthy relationship, you and your partner must be honest with each other.
You should both be able to communicate openly about what is important to each of you and respect the other person’s opinions and goals.
For example, if one of your core values is having children while the other does not want them at all, then this could cause problems down the road.
You also need to make sure that both parties are on the same page when it comes to goals or plans for the future (for example: buying a house together).
4. Make time for fun things like date nights and random activities that bring you closer together
Date nights are important, but they don’t have to be a big production.
Go out for dinner at your favorite restaurant or catch a movie together. Try something new and find something you both enjoy doing together.
It could be anything from ice skating to hiking, going bowling, or even just staying in and watching Netflix!
Don’t forget that fun doesn’t always have to cost money; sometimes it’s just about finding time for each other even if that means doing nothing more than laughing over silly things in life.
5. Give Room For Self-Development
You cannot give what you don’t have in a relationship that is; the level by which you’ll enjoy your relationship is based on how much value you put into it.
So you must always give access to develop yourself day in and day out.
The self-development includes so many areas of your life like your finances, knowledge about life, intellectual growth, spiritual growth, character building, and your relationship with others.
Doing this makes it easy for you to share value while in a relationship.
6. Communicate openly about your feelings, needs, wants, and boundaries
To maintain a healthy relationship, you and your partner should agree on the best medium of communication that will be suitable for you both especially if you are in a long-distance relationship.
Communication is vital to any healthy relationship. This means that both people must be willing to listen to each other and be open to compromise.
If you’re in a relationship with someone who does not communicate well, then this can be an indicator of future problems in your relationship.
Being able to communicate openly about your feelings, needs wants, and boundaries.
So both people can feel comfortable expressing themselves honestly when conflict arises between them in their relationship.
This is important for maintaining a happy and healthy marriage or partnership over time.
Learn to communicate the exact way you feel, and communicate your feelings, thoughts, and concerns generally.
And when communicating, your other partner should master the skill of listening to the important details as well.
7. Build Trust In One Another
Every healthy relationship is built on the foundation of trust and if you want a healthy relationship then you should build trust with your partner.
Do not allow jealousy or insecurity to creep in because, in the long run, it will deprive you of your joy in that relationship.
It takes time to build trust and it can be hard to build trust with your partner if your trust has been shattered in time past.
Although some people generally have trust issues, they find it difficult to trust their partner.
If you want a healthy relationship, then this should not be your case.
Here are a few steps to building trust;
Be accountable to them
Forgive each other when mistakes are made
Doing this makes it easy for you to build trust with time and also become someone that your partner can trust.
8. Ask Them How They Want To Be Loved
One of the things that help to maintain a relationship is loving your partner the exact way they want to be loved.
When you do this, it makes it easier for love to grow between the both of you.
This means, speaking to them in their love language.
We have five major types of love language and they are as follows
Acts of service
Words of affirmation
Giving of gifts
Kindly ask them what their love language is and try your best to satisfy them with it.
9. Learn To Comprise
Trust me, sometimes, you’ll have to comprise if you truly want a healthy relationship.
This doesn’t necessarily mean going against your policies or values systems but it means sometimes, doing something you probably never thought of doing.
For instance, if you always go to bed by 9pm every day and it has become a routine for you.
Imagine being in a relationship with someone whose only spare time to communicate with you is 9pm; of course, you’ll have to sacrifice that time for them in order to communicate.
So, sometimes inability to comprise may mean selfishness and, you don’t want that to happen to your relationship.
10. Taking care of your relationship means taking care of yourself first
Taking care of your relationship means taking care of yourself first.
You must be able to take care of yourself before you can take care of others, and this includes having a strong sense of self.
If you don’t know who you are, how can anyone else? The best way to do that is by practicing self-love and self-care every day.
Maintaining a healthy relationship may not always be easy because it takes a lot of effort.
As you can see, there are many ways to take care of your relationship.
It doesn’t have to be complicated or difficult if you just remember to make time for each other and keep the lines of communication open.
If you feel like your partner isn’t taking care of their part in keeping things healthy between the two of you, then don’t hesitate to speak up about it!
The key is making sure that both people feel heard, understood, and respected by one another as well as in their relationship.
But, trust me, if you can pay the sacrifice of doing all it takes to have a healthy relationship.
You’ll definitely enjoy the benefit, and with time it will as well take a turn even in your personal life.