If you’ve read a few of my articles, you probably know by now that I’m an advocate of romance, flirting, and seduction in relationships.
And that’s because I believe that those things can help you improve your relationship. That said, there are some questions a man should never ask a woman.
Why? Because they make you seem insecure and rude.
There are lots of things that you need to know when attempting to communicate with the opposite sex.
You should always be polite, respect them and never make a joke about anything that could be considered threatening. Here is a list of things you should never ask a woman.
1.) Are you pregnant?
One of the questions a man should never ask a woman is asking a woman if she is pregnant can be a very awkward question to ask. If you are not 100% sure that she is pregnant, do not ask her at all!
The last thing you want to do is make someone feel uncomfortable by asking them a question that they may or may not have been wanting to tell the world about.
Perhaps the woman has something wrong with her, but it does not necessarily mean that she is expecting.
It could be some sort of medical condition that makes her look like she is heavier than usual.
Asking this question could also lead to an awkward conversation where you might possibly offend her by saying something along the lines of: “Oh, are you pregnant? My bad,” or “You sure look fat.”
This lady could actively be trying to lose weight while feeling extremely self-conscious about how much weight she has gained over time.
She may be on a diet and getting healthy to shed off pounds so asking if she’s pregnant would only add insult to injury.
Instead of wondering whether or not someone is expecting, just mind your own business and enjoy your day!
2.) Aren’t you hungry?
So let me get this straight: you’ve never seen the movie “Never Been Kissed” and now you’re questioning whether or not a woman is hungry? In what world would that be okay to say to a woman?
Doing things like asking if we are hungry are passive-aggressive ways of saying we look fat.
Here’s a fun fact: It is none of your business whether or not we eat, how much we eat, or when we eat. We eat when WE want to eat. Not when YOU think we should be eating.
3.) How much do you weigh?
Whenever you meet a smart girl/woman that you like, awkward situations may occur. Of course, there is no right or wrong in asking questions to a girl. But one of the questions a man should never ask a woman is how much do you weigh?
Because it makes most women feel uncomfortable, it is better to avoid such things.
Some women are not comfortable answering certain questions. Asking how much they weigh can make some girls/women get angry with you.
4.) Why didn’t you get married, yet?
You: Why didn’t you get married yet?
Her: Well, maybe because I’m not ready or haven’t found the right person. Maybe it’s not a race and I’m happy with my life as it is. It’s not a priority for me; it’s a personal decision.
You: Oh. So… why didn’t you get married yet?
Her: Ugh! Because it’s none of your business, that’s why!
First of all, sex and relationship topics should always be approached in an organic way—if someone doesn’t want to talk about them with you, don’t force her to do so.
And when the topic does come up, stick to relevant questions like “how long did you date your ex-boyfriend?” or “what did he do?”
5.) Why did you choose this career?
Let’s face it: there are a lot of personal questions that an employer might be legally prevented from asking in an interview, but they don’t stop other people from asking them.
One such question is “Why did you choose this career?” This is a very personal and meaningful question, and it can make the person feel uncomfortable in many situations if they’re not prepared to answer it.
It could also come across as judgmental if you are trying to make a connection with someone you know professionally, but don’t know well on a personal level yet.
6.) Do you earn enough money?
Asking a woman how much money she makes is very rude and inappropriate.
Asking this question implies that you believe the woman isn’t making enough money, which can make her feel uncomfortable.
In general, a person’s salary is private and should not be discussed. Doing so can cause tension between two people who are getting to know each other.
Think about it: if a woman asked you how much money you made, would that be OK? No! So don’t ask her to do the same thing.
7.) Will you show me the new dress you bought?
We know you want to see the new dress she bought, but this question is inappropriate. Answering it is a burden for her – she should not feel obligated to show you something for which you did not pay.
She might not want to show it at all, or if she does, maybe not right that second – and that’s entirely her decision.
8.) Why are you taking so much time to get ready?
This question is actually offensive because it is insinuating that we are taking a long time to get ready for you.
This isn’t about you. We take a long time to get ready for ourselves, not for you or anyone else.
We take the time to do our makeup because we want to feel good and look nice. Makeup can be fun and it’s nice to feel pretty sometimes, so don’t assume that we’re doing it just to impress people we know (or want to know).
If we choose not to take the hour out of our day needed for a full face of makeup, then why are you questioning us?
Makeup is an option, but when I’m dressed up and looking great, I often forget how much work went into getting ready. So stop asking this question!
9.) How big is your house/apartment/condo?
It’s not polite to ask someone how much they make, so the same applies to asking about the size of the home they live in.
It implies that you know something about their financial situation, which is presumptuous.
Try taking your cue from them; if they bring up their home, join in with any details they share. If not, let it go.
10.) Do you get a lot of attention as a woman in the workplace/at school/from men?
Last but not the least of questions a man should never ask a woman is asking a woman if she’s treated differently because of her gender at work, school, or in her personal life is not only annoying but also pretty obvious.
Of course, you’re going to get attention as a woman in any setting—it’s an unavoidable fact that our society tends to elevate women and judge them more harshly.
But the silver lining is that this dynamic has shifted a lot over the years, and women are more empowered than ever before thanks to movements like #MeToo. (That being said, we still have a long way to go.)
Much like asking anyone about anything that is personal, some things are better left unanswered!
You can be friendly and respectful without asking personal questions. If you are interested in knowing more about the people you meet, there are plenty of ways to do so besides asking intrusive questions.
Be creative. Start a conversation that isn’t focused on personal information. Make an observation about something going on in your environment, or share an interesting fact about yourself.
Share your thoughts on a new movie or book you’ve seen or read, and ask for the other person’s thoughts on it as well.
Talk about what you like to do and what your passions are, and encourage the other person to share their passions with you as well.
Take turns talking about things that interest both of you, such as sports teams or music groups, or explore common interests and backgrounds by talking about where you grow up, attended school, or lived before moving to where you currently live now.
It’s disrespectful to ask people personal questions.
If these ideas don’t work for you and the other person doesn’t seem willing to talk at any length without being asked personal questions.
Consider finding someone else to talk with who is more interested in sharing with others rather than hearing information from them alone.
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