If you’ve ever been in a relationship, you’ve probably wondered if it’s real or fake.
The truth is that sometimes it’s hard to tell if your partner loves you, even when all signs point to yes.
And while there’s no easy way to tell if your partner is faking their love for you, there are some signs that might help shed light on whether they’re being honest with themselves and with you:
We’ve all been there. You meet a guy and you think he’s perfect. He’s charming, handsome, and funny.
You’re head over heels and you can’t imagine your life without him.
But then, after a few months (or years) of dating, you start to notice that things aren’t quite as they seem.
He’s not as attentive as he used to be. He doesn’t make an effort to spend time with you. And you start to wonder: is he really in love with me?
So If you’re wondering whether the guy you’re with is truly in love with you, read on for 10 signs that he’s pretending to love you.
Signs He’s Pretending To Love You
1. He doesn’t want to introduce you to his friends or family
If he’s not excited to introduce you to his friends and family, it means he doesn’t think highly of you.
A guy who’s serious about you will want to introduce you to the people who matter most to him—his friends and family.
Whenever you notice he continually makes excuses for why you haven’t met them yet, it could be because he’s not actually that serious about you.
He may feel ashamed of being with you or embarrassed by who you are. Insecurity is common among people who aren’t confident in their relationships.
So if he’s afraid of what other people will think about him dating someone like yourself, this could be a sign that he isn’t completely honest with himself either.
2. He doesn’t make an effort to spend time with you
When two people are in love, they want to spend as much time together as possible.
When a guy constantly makes excuses for not spending quality time with you, it’s one of the obvious signs he’s pretending to love you.
When someone cares about their significant other, they’ll make an effort to spend quality time with them outside of the bedroom, too. No matter how busy they are.
It’s normal for couples to have separate interests and activities outside of their relationship, but if your guy is always too busy for you it may mean that he doesn’t consider you a priority in his life or in the relationship.
3. He Flirts With Other Women—Even When You’re Together
If the man you’re seeing can’t help but flirt with other women even when you’re standing right next to him.
It may be a sign that his feelings for you aren’t as strong as they should be.
4. He Picks Fights With You Over Nothing
Healthy relationships are built on trust, respect, and communication.
So if your man is constantly picking fights with you over little things, it could be because he’s trying to create distance between you two.
By starting arguments and being needlessly combative, he’s hoping to push you away so he doesn’t have to deal with the emotional fallout of breaking up with you himself.
5. He avoids talking about the future with you
If he’s not willing to talk about the future, it’s likely that he isn’t ready to commit and it’s one of the clear crystal signs that he’s pretending to love you.
A guy who loves you will definitely be more than ready and would love to start making future plans with you.
If the reverse is the case, it probably isn’t good news for your relationship.
6. His words and actions don’t match up.
If your guy is saying he loves you, but his actions don’t match up with his words, it could be a sign that he’s faking his love.
While this should not be the case at all times, it could happen if:
- He’s not ready to commit right now.
- He doesn’t think you’re good enough for him or doesn’t see a future with you.
- He’s afraid of being hurt again and is trying to protect himself from getting hurt by telling you that he loves you even though he really doesn’t mean it and wants out of the relationship before any damage has been done (or before anyone gets hurt).
7. He never takes responsibility for his actions.
In any healthy relationship, both partners are willing to take responsibility when they screw up.
If your guy always finds a way to shift the blame onto someone else, it may be because he doesn’t want to admit that he’s anything less than perfect.
When he constantly makes excuses for his bad behavior or always manages to turn things around on you instead of taking any real responsibility when things go wrong in the relationship.
Chances are good that he’s just trying to gaslight you into thinking everything is your fault so you’ll stay with him despite how bad things really are.
8. He’s emotionally distant
When two people are in love, they share an emotional connection that goes deep below the surface.
If your guy seems emotionally distant or disconnected from you, it may be a sign that he’s holding back his true feelings.
9. He’s still active on dating apps
If you discover the guy you’re seeing is still swiping left and right on dating apps like Tinder or Bumble even though he says he wants a relationship with only one person (you), it’s a pretty clear sign that something isn’t right.
It shows he’s not ready to commit to the relationship and is probably one of the signs he’s pretending to love you.
Either he’s not ready for monogamy or he’s just not that into You—either way, it’s time to move on.
10. He won’t open up about himself.
In order for two people to connect on a deeper level, they need to be able to share vulnerable thoughts and feelings with each other—but that can only happen if both people feel safe doing so.
If your guy never opens up about himself or always changes the subject when you try to ask him personal questions, it could mean that he doesn’t trust you enough (or doesn’t care enough) to let down his guard.
It’s hard, but you’ll be happier if you know for sure whether he really loves you.
If you’re unsure if he loves you, then it might be time to end things and move on.
While your heart is breaking, remember that there are plenty of other people out there who might be better suited for you.
If the guy has been acting really weird lately and not giving any signals that he still loves you, then it could mean that he’s faking his feelings for some reason—or worse yet, cheating on you!
Either way, don’t dwell on these thoughts too much because they’ll only make things worse. Just focus on finding out what’s going on with your boyfriend so that all of this confusion will finally stop!
No one wants to think that the person they’re with isn’t being truthful about their feelings, but unfortunately, it does happen sometimes.
If your gut is telling you that something isn’t right, take a closer look at your relationship dynamic and see if any of these signs apply.
A little investigation now could save you from much pain down the road.
If you’ve noticed these signs, it’s time to ask him. Don’t be confrontational or accusatory — just ask the question. After all, life is too short to waste time pretending!
The worst thing that can happen is he says no and you have some clarity about where things stand with your relationship.
But if he says yes, then thank your lucky stars: at least now you know what’s going on.