Are you wondering why your relationship is failing? Has it come to a point where you have given up? And you are actually looking for ways to fight for your relationship?
While it is true that some relationships aren’t meant to be, there are ways to fight for your relationship when it feels like it’s ending.
The reality is that not all relationships are meant to last forever. The truth is, the world would be full of unhappy couples if everyone stayed together no matter what.
However, some individuals are committed and want to fight for their relationships to see them flourish and last.
There are also steps that you can take to ensure your relationship doesn’t fail.
Many relationships go through difficult times but something I’ve learned through time and experience is that you have to fight for the things that you want.
Nothing is going to come easy if you really want it, love is also not an exception.
Knowing that things take time to develop and finding a way to grow together is what relationships are meant for.
Here are some ways to fight for your relationship when it feels like it could be ending.
1. Make time together a priority.
It’s funny, how even the most loving relationships can crumble to the ground if one partner doesn’t make time to meet their partner halfway.
Whether one of you is a workaholic or spends most of your free time with friends it’s important to remember that your relationships are the foundation for everything.
Spending time together may not seem like the obvious solution when you don’t have much in common, but spending time together can help you reaffirm your bond and strengthen your relationship in the long run.
2. Ask questions — and listen to each other.
When your relationship has hit a rough patch, there are several things you can do to fight for the relationship. One of the most important things is to ask questions.
No matter how unhappy or frustrated you’ve become, asking questions is one of the best ways to get your partner to be honest.
Ask questions and listen sincerely to your partner’s answers without criticism or interruption.
When they’re finished, ask follow-up questions to completely understand the points they’ve just made.
If you can’t come to an agreement on a particular issue, decide when you’ll talk about it again and set a time frame for when you will reach a solution that works for both of you.
Not only will this help your relationship grow, but it will help you to grow as well.
3. Keep communication simple and clear.
It sounds like such a simple and quick fix, but many people don’t voice their issues before they end up calling it quits.
Talking it out may not solve every problem, but it’s a good start to getting things back on track. Taking each issue one day at a time helps.
Instead of trying to tackle every issue in bulk, break them down and don’t be in a rush to get past them. Rushing through your issues will make them easier to come back up in the future.
4. Swallow your pride and Fix things
When you realized that the fault is yours, do not find it difficult to swallow your pride and say sorry.
When in a relationship, it’s easy to notice the flaws that your partner has and cite those as the reasons things may be falling apart.
However, the key to fighting for your relationship and healthily rebuilding it is to notice and address your issues before you address theirs.
By doing that, you’re essentially saying, “I understand where and what I did wrong and I’m willing to fix it.
5. Remember the good times you’ve had together, and enjoy them again.
When a relationship is worth fighting for, the rewards can exceed your wildest dreams. But sometimes, you can feel like it’s not worth the effort to stay together.
In this case, we don’t want your memories to mold into something that isn’t what they were or turn them into something they will never be again.
We don’t want you to spend your time thinking of all the things that are wrong with your relationship instead of everything that’s right about it.
Remember the time you and your partner met on that trip to Brazil.
And that time when he/she helped you move all of your stuff into your new flat. And the other time when he/she…
However, those times are still there. If you open your mind and your heart, they will find you once again.
Thoughts of fondly remembering how happy you were during your relationship can motivate you to continue fighting for it.
6. Find something new to do together.
Find something new to do together. I know, this may sound silly. If you’re not currently interested in your partner, why torture yourself?
Easy answer: Do something new to get him or her interested again. This doesn’t mean going to jump on a motorcycle and hurting yourself – that’s just stupid and will only create negative feelings towards your significant other.
It does mean taking an interest in your partner’s interests. However, partnering up on a hobby can be fun.
Go shopping together, cook dinner together, or take an online class together – these all make for great dates that won’t wear out their welcome.
The purpose of this is to create a new spark of interest in the relationship so that it can be fallen back in love again.
7. Rebuild your friendship
To rebuild your friendship and probably make it stronger is another way to fight for your relationship when it seems ending.
The more connected you are, the better your relationship will be.
8. Be kind to one another.
I was raised to be kind. The golden rule, treat others how you would want to be treated, is one that’s been instilled in me from a young age.
It also has made up my relationships with my friends, family, and lovers.
There are times when it is hard to be kind. When you are hurting, it can be hard to be kind in return.
But no matter what, be kind to one another. My mother always said that. I don’t think she knew why, but she’s was smart like that. Being kind and understanding to your spouse can turn a bad day around.
9. Give each other space if it feels needed.
I know I’ve said it before, but sometimes relationships require you to give each other space if it feels needed.
There’s really not much else to add. Whether it’s a day apart or a week, giving each other space CAN work.
Give each other space if it feels needed. The strongest relationships aren’t the ones where people spend all of their time together and never have any alone time.
It’s more important to connect and give each other love in big and little ways on a regular basis.
And when there’s not a lot you can do because your relationship is falling apart, that’s okay. Find perspective and remember the good times, not just the bad ones.
10. Get outside help from a couples therapist, if needed.
When you realize that your relationship is actually ending, you can feel like it’s the end of the world.
You need to fight for your relationships, but fighting alone won’t be enough. You’re going to need outside help from a couples therapist.
They can use strategies to help save your relationship and they can point out any emotional baggage that you carry that is hindering your relationship.
11. Be honest about your feelings.
Many couples who go through a divorce never admit to their spouse how they truly feel. This only adds to the stress and frustration that comes with marriage or partnership problems.
The best way to fix a problem is to identify and admit it first. An honest relationship isn’t supposed to be easy, but it’s not supposed to be war either.
Understanding ways to fight for your relationship when it seems to end can help you and your spouse figure out how to move forward.
12. Be fair, wise, and kind with your partner in everyday life.
When life doesn’t live up to expectations, we blame it on the world—on our partners, on everyone else. It’s not fair! We’re disappointed and we expect them to understand this.
But sometimes, that’s neither realistic nor fair to them. Bailing out of relationships when they don’t go our way is the easy way out. Be fair, wise, and kind with your partner in everyday life.